So - Who's Looking Back at You in the Mirror?

The easiest person for you to beat up on is yourself. If you invested your love in someone who for whatever reason is unable to see you as the best love of their life - that is their loss, it is not yours. Of course, knowing that won't ease the pain of wanting to win back love, but we have to try to be clear about what we want to win back.

Please don't misunderstand. I'm not saying when your love fails to appreciate you that it doesn't hurt big time - I know it does, I've been there too. But when you look in the mirror - who do you see looking back at you? Is it someone who is able to tell the difference between an ambulance and a hearse?

It is crucial for you to be able to tell if the person you love is able to love you back the way they should. You have to be able to decide if they are able to make the commitment to their own peace of mind by cherishing the person who is willing to love them in spite of who they are - and remembering that there are no perfect will go a long way to prevent you beating up on yourself needlessly...

So when you made the decision to love that special someone, it was because you had accepted them for who they are. But they may simply not be able to do the same for you. If they have a problem realizing the gift you are to them, the pain you are feeling now may be the turning point for your better decisions in the future.

The relationship may have been less than healthy and you may have been ignoring the fact that some healing needed to take place. Like any infection, the best way to deal with it is to deal with it - and to win back your love in a relationship that is hurting is to deal with the cause of the hurt.

When you look in the mirror, who's looking back at you? If it is someone who knows what they have to offer is priceless, then take the next step and decide if the one you want to win back deserves you. If they do, your relationship needs an ambulance to the hospital for critical care. If they don't, say good-by to the hearse, mourn the loss of what you shared and move on for a healthier you.

If when you look in the mirror the one looking back at you is the caring and supportive person you know you are, live in the confidence of who looks back at you - it may be only a matter of time before someone else who see the same qualities in their mirror recognizes those priceless qualities in you also.

It's bittersweet, I know, but the pain you're feeling now may be the turning point to the better you tomorrow...