Are you trying to figure out how to win your loved one back? Ending a relationship with a loved one is very difficult, and it certainly doesn't get any easier with practice. The following tips can help you get your ex back, but before proceeding with them, please take the time to really think about how your relationship was overall, and make sure it was a healthy one (not abusive, no excessive fighting, etc.).
Infidelity. If your loved one left you due to infidelity on your part, you need to prove to them that you can be trusted again, so this may take some time. Also, you need to apologize. Yes, you may have done this already, possibly during the actual break up? At that time your ex may not have taken it too seriously either because they were so upset or because they may have thought you were only apologizing so you wouldn't lose them. It has to be a sincere, heartfelt apology. Lastly, give them time. They will probably need time to process the situation and to heal from it all. It may take weeks or maybe even months but you need to respect that time they may need and let them be alone if that's what they need. If they choose to contact you, then be there for them. Be a friend. Be nice. And if they are hurting, be prepared for them to lash out at you and be angry with you because of what you did. It is important to remain calm and be sympathetic towards them. They have the right to be angry with you and you need to understand that the anger stems from the hurt and pain that they are sure to be feeling. Side Note: It is best not to date anyone during your time apart, this will be a baby step to showing them that they can trust you again.
Clingyness. Did your relationship end due to you maybe being too "clingy" to him/her? If this is the case, the way to win your loved one back, as hard as it may be, is to give them space. Don't text them, email them, call them, and definitely don't stalk them. They may still love you but they may have just felt a bit "suffocated". When you do see or talk to them, it is a good idea to not appear needy or desperate towards them. Play it cool and act like you are okay with the break up. Just give them some time to themselves for awhile before contacting them again. Give them time to start wondering what you're up to and...to miss you.
Boredom. Lastly, if your relationship ended due to boredom, you will need to spice things up to win them back. First, think about what attracted them to you when you first met. Maybe your sense of humor? Your confidence? Were you more adventurous or outgoing back then? Show them that you still are that person. If you meet up with him/her, even just as friends, do something fun together. Do something you used to do together that you both enjoyed, or maybe there's something you planned on doing but never got around to. You get the idea. If they aren't ready to spend time with you, then get out and do something fun on your own. Take a dance class, take up a new hobby, etc. Show your ex that you are willing to do fun and interesting things.
Even if None of These Reasons Applied to You, Remember...
To win your loved one back is possible, but you need to be willing to change some behaviors in order to do so. Of course, there are many more reasons than just these three that could have ended your relationship, but no matter what the reason, there are 2 main things to keep in mind and those are, one, to give your ex healing time and, two, for you to take that time to think about why the relationship ended and what you need to do or change to get your loved one back in your arms again.
These are the beginning steps to get you on the road to win your loved one back. There is a simple step-by-step plan that has so much unique information and has literally helped thousands of couples get back together. It is called the Magic of Making Up. You may want to check it out if you think it might be right for you.
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